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Helping a Co-Worker in an Abusive Relationship

When you’re at work, you’re probably not talking with your co-workers about really personal stuff. But if you find out that one of your co-workers is in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, you can help them by knowing how to show your support.

The most important thing you can do for your co-worker is let them know you’re there for them. If they’re coming to you for support, they’re putting their trust in you. Listen to them, and avoid judging or offering advice; instead, acknowledge their feelings and help them recognize that abuse is not normal or their fault. You might say things like, “You don’t deserve to be treated like that” or “You deserve to be respected.” 

If your co-worker fears for their safety from their partner while at work, you can help them create a safety plan. You might encourage them to speak with a manager or the HR department who can explain any policies about how the company responds to domestic or dating violence among employees. If you’re a manager, you could talk to them about what the company can do to help them, such as giving them time off for a court hearing. Talk to your co-worker about what would help them feel safe coming to and leaving work, whether that’s getting college campus security to escort them home, or walking them out yourself to the parking lot. 

Your co-worker may not tell you what their partner or ex looks like, but if they do, keep an eye out to see if they come in the workplace. If they do come in, don’t reveal information about your co-worker, like their schedule or where they take their breaks, because the abusive partner could use that information to stalk or keep tabs on your co-worker. Additionally, if your co-worker says they have a restraining order against their partner and expresses they want the police involved, you can help enforce that by calling the police if their partner shows up at the workplace.

It’s hard to find great people who you enjoy working with, so you may not want to lose someone as a co-worker. However, if it’s an issue of their safety — as well as the safety of other employees — it may be best to see if additional job sites can relocate them. If you’re working at a chain restaurant or retail store, for instance, your co-worker might be able to transfer to another location. Or if you’re working on a college campus, there may be somewhere else on-campus that’s hiring. If your co-worker needs to leave their job because of their relationship, it’s good to note that some states offer unemployment benefits to people who have left their jobs due to dating or domestic abuse. 

Abusive relationships can happen to anyone, anywhere. To help keep your workplace safer, brush up on the warning signs of abuse and learn how to be a part of someone’s support system. You can always call, text, or chat with a peer advocate at loveisrespect for more information and resources!

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Looking for a way to show you believe in healthy relationships? Like the color orange? Could use a daily reminder of how wonderful you are? (Because you totally are!) Just want to support a worthy cause while getting sweet accessories in the process?

Check out these great hair ties (or bracelets); $1 of every purchase is donated to loveisrespect!

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Campus Safety Awareness Month

September is National Campus Safety Awareness Month, so all month long groups and organizations around the country are calling attention to issues of student safety on college and university campuses. 

This year, we’re focusing on bystander awareness and how being an active bystander can help prevent incidents of assault and violence. Being an active bystander means:

We’ve talked about the Bystander Effect before, and this article does a good job explaining the four D’s of bystander intervention: Direct, Distract, Delegate, and Delay. Throughout the month we’ll be sharing information about campus safety and being an active bystander, so be sure to follow us on Twitter, Facebook, and Tumblr for all the latest updates! 

Other Resources to Check Out:

  • Not Alone, the White House’s official website on campus safety, provides tons of information, from finding a crisis service, to explaining your rights, to learning how to file a complaint at your school.
  • The Clery Center for Security on Campus also provides resources for victims and survivors of campus assault, as well as information on the Clery Act and Title IX (two important pieces of legislation you should definitely know about!)

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Is cheating abuse? f

At loveisrespect, we get asked this question all of the time: Is cheating abuse? Having a partner cheat on you can be a gut-wrenching, incredibly difficult experience, but only you know if its abuse.

It all depends on context. If your partner cheated on you and you are wondering if it’s an abusive act, ask yourself these questions:

  • Does your partner serially cheat on you and then blame you for their behavior?
  • Did your partner cheat on you intentionally to hurt you and do they threaten to cheat again?
  • Did your partner cheat to prove that they are more desired, worthy, etc. than you are?
  • Do you find yourself apologizing after you get upset with their behavior?
  • Does your partner also threaten you with violence, physically hurt you, call you names, try to control where you go or what you wear, criticize you or blame you for hurtful things they say or do?

If you answered ‘yes’ or even ‘maybe’ to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. Chat or call loveisrespect at 1-866-331-9474; we can help you sort through these feelings.

An important note: If it doesn’t feel right, then it’s probably not right. If your partner cheated and you don’t think you want to continue the relationship, then you don’t have to, whether the relationship is abusive or not.

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Got your syllabi and textbook lists yet? If you already buy your books online, consider designating the National Domestic Violence Hotline as your AmazonSmile charity. Choose the Hotline and Amazon will automatically donate 0.5% of the cost of anything you buy to an organization that helps provide crisis intervention, emotional support, safety planning, and referrals to hundreds of thousands of people every year.
We know those textbooks add up, so it’s nice to know when you can make your $$$ count for even more. Every penny means more crisis calls and chats get answered, so thanks for considering us!
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Got your syllabi and textbook lists yet? If you already buy your books online, consider designating the National Domestic Violence Hotline as your AmazonSmile charity. Choose the Hotline and Amazon will automatically donate 0.5% of the cost of anything you buy to an organization that helps provide crisis intervention, emotional support, safety planning, and referrals to hundreds of thousands of people every year.
We know those textbooks add up, so it’s nice to know when you can make your $$$ count for even more. Every penny means more crisis calls and chats get answered, so thanks for considering us!
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Got your syllabi and textbook lists yet? If you already buy your books online, consider designating the National Domestic Violence Hotline as your AmazonSmile charity. Choose the Hotline and Amazon will automatically donate 0.5% of the cost of anything you buy to an organization that helps provide crisis intervention, emotional support, safety planning, and referrals to hundreds of thousands of people every year.
We know those textbooks add up, so it’s nice to know when you can make your $$$ count for even more. Every penny means more crisis calls and chats get answered, so thanks for considering us!
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Got your syllabi and textbook lists yet? If you already buy your books online, consider designating the National Domestic Violence Hotline as your AmazonSmile charity. Choose the Hotline and Amazon will automatically donate 0.5% of the cost of anything you buy to an organization that helps provide crisis intervention, emotional support, safety planning, and referrals to hundreds of thousands of people every year.
We know those textbooks add up, so it’s nice to know when you can make your $$$ count for even more. Every penny means more crisis calls and chats get answered, so thanks for considering us!
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Got your syllabi and textbook lists yet? If you already buy your books online, consider designating the National Domestic Violence Hotline as your AmazonSmile charity. Choose the Hotline and Amazon will automatically donate 0.5% of the cost of anything you buy to an organization that helps provide crisis intervention, emotional support, safety planning, and referrals to hundreds of thousands of people every year.

We know those textbooks add up, so it’s nice to know when you can make your $$$ count for even more. Every penny means more crisis calls and chats get answered, so thanks for considering us!

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Going back to school is an exciting time of new school supplies and new school year resolutions! Get inspired to create your own over on our blog at loveisrespect.org/new-school-year-resolutions-for-you.

  • Take care of yourself.
  • Do something to end dating violence in your community.
  • Find a trusted adult.
  • Negotiate a dating contract with yourself.
  • Have a healthy relationship with the important people in your life.
  • And more

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Keeping Your Pets Safe

August 16th is International Homeless Animals Day, and there are many reasons why beloved animals may become homeless: overpopulation due to lack of spaying and neutering, pet owners who decide they no longer wish to keep their pets, pets that run away from home, pets who are abused by their owners. Many pets are also displaced as a result of domestic violence.

According to Safe Place for Pets, up to 65% of domestic violence victims are unable to escape their abusive partners because they are concerned about what will happen to their pets when they leave. In many cases, victims of domestic violence may try to take their pets with them when they are able to leave the relationship, but find that their local domestic violence shelters do not accept pets. Fortunately, this is changing, and shelters for domestic violence and abuse victims are beginning to create spaces for pets. Thanks to the Animal Welfare Institute’s Safe Havens Mapping Project, it’s becoming easier to locate shelters that accept pets.

Check out the hotline’s Pets & DV page to find shelters in your area, and head over to the blog to read more about safety planning with pets.

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The Myth of the Friend Zone

It’s the plotline of so many movies and tv shows, seemingly dreaded by all who date: the friend zone

When someone says they’re in the friend zone, they usually mean that they want to have a more intimate, romantic, and/or sexual relationship with a person who considers them to be “just friends.” 

But we’re here to tell you something that might blow your mind: the friend zone is a myth!

Ridiculous, right? We’ll give you a few minutes to let that sink in. 

We know it definitely sucks to have feelings for someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you. It’s okay to feel disappointed or hurt by that. But the reason we call the friend zone a myth is because there really is no “zone” that you can be “put into” by someone else. Everyone has the right to decide who they do and do not want to date or be intimate with. 

If someone says they’re in the friend zone, they’re usually implying that they feel entitled to another person’s affection as “payback” for the emotional investment and time spent being their “friend.” They might be thinking: I’ve been such a good friend to you, so you should be my girl/boyfriend! Or maybe: If I’m really nice to them, they’ll eventually WANT to be my girl/boyfriend!

The truth is, no one is obligated to be interested in anyone else, for any reason. Just because you have feelings for someone, you are not OWED their affections, and vice versa. 

If you’ve expressed your interest in dating someone and they’ve made it clear that they don’t wish to date you, the healthy response is to respect their decision. Attempting to manipulate them into changing their mind or their feelings by acting like a friend isn’t healthy. Being a true friend to someone means loving and respecting who they are and what they do and don’t want, even if that means you don’t get everything you want from them. 

Again, it’s understandable if you feel hurt by this situation. While you’re working through your feelings, you might want to take the opportunity to step back from this person for a little while. If you feel comfortable doing so, you might tell the other person something like, “I understand that you don’t feel the same way about me, but I just need a little time to myself right now.” Focus on the stuff you like to do - fun activities, hobbies, or just being around different people. In time, you might discover that you’re happy being friends with that person and can continue to grow a healthy friendship with them, or maybe you’ll decide that it feels better to move on. That’s definitely your choice.

If you have questions about relationships, we are here to listen and help! Call, chat, or text with one of our peer advocates today.

Some related posts to check out: 

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Having the Talk about Pornography

Today we’re going to talk about a subject that’s usually considered taboo, at least in our society: pornography. Good thing nothing is taboo at loveisrespect! Lots of people who get in touch with us have questions about porn, so if you have questions too, you’re not alone.

  • Is looking at porn wrong? Can it be okay?
  • Does it count as cheating if you’re in a relationship?
  • Can I ask my significant other to stop looking at porn?
  • Does looking at porn mean my partner doesn’t love me?

These are all questions we’ve heard before, and they all have complex answers. Head over to the loveisrespect blog to find the answers!

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