just your daily dose of adorable to help you power through your tuesday. remember, you are strong! and you deserve to be this happy!

and if your relationship has got you down, loveisrespect is always here 24/7 to give you a boost.

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Is cheating abuse? f

At loveisrespect, we get asked this question all of the time: Is cheating abuse? Having a partner cheat on you can be a gut-wrenching, incredibly difficult experience, but only you know if its abuse.

It all depends on context. If your partner cheated on you and you are wondering if it’s an abusive act, ask yourself these questions:

  • Does your partner serially cheat on you and then blame you for their behavior?
  • Did your partner cheat on you intentionally to hurt you and do they threaten to cheat again?
  • Did your partner cheat to prove that they are more desired, worthy, etc. than you are?
  • Do you find yourself apologizing after you get upset with their behavior?
  • Does your partner also threaten you with violence, physically hurt you, call you names, try to control where you go or what you wear, criticize you or blame you for hurtful things they say or do?

If you answered ‘yes’ or even ‘maybe’ to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. Chat or call loveisrespect at 1-866-331-9474; we can help you sort through these feelings.

An important note: If it doesn’t feel right, then it’s probably not right. If your partner cheated and you don’t think you want to continue the relationship, then you don’t have to, whether the relationship is abusive or not.

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Got your syllabi and textbook lists yet? If you already buy your books online, consider designating the National Domestic Violence Hotline as your AmazonSmile charity. Choose the Hotline and Amazon will automatically donate 0.5% of the cost of anything you buy to an organization that helps provide crisis intervention, emotional support, safety planning, and referrals to hundreds of thousands of people every year.
We know those textbooks add up, so it’s nice to know when you can make your $$$ count for even more. Every penny means more crisis calls and chats get answered, so thanks for considering us!
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Got your syllabi and textbook lists yet? If you already buy your books online, consider designating the National Domestic Violence Hotline as your AmazonSmile charity. Choose the Hotline and Amazon will automatically donate 0.5% of the cost of anything you buy to an organization that helps provide crisis intervention, emotional support, safety planning, and referrals to hundreds of thousands of people every year.
We know those textbooks add up, so it’s nice to know when you can make your $$$ count for even more. Every penny means more crisis calls and chats get answered, so thanks for considering us!
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Got your syllabi and textbook lists yet? If you already buy your books online, consider designating the National Domestic Violence Hotline as your AmazonSmile charity. Choose the Hotline and Amazon will automatically donate 0.5% of the cost of anything you buy to an organization that helps provide crisis intervention, emotional support, safety planning, and referrals to hundreds of thousands of people every year.
We know those textbooks add up, so it’s nice to know when you can make your $$$ count for even more. Every penny means more crisis calls and chats get answered, so thanks for considering us!
ZoomInfo
Got your syllabi and textbook lists yet? If you already buy your books online, consider designating the National Domestic Violence Hotline as your AmazonSmile charity. Choose the Hotline and Amazon will automatically donate 0.5% of the cost of anything you buy to an organization that helps provide crisis intervention, emotional support, safety planning, and referrals to hundreds of thousands of people every year.
We know those textbooks add up, so it’s nice to know when you can make your $$$ count for even more. Every penny means more crisis calls and chats get answered, so thanks for considering us!
ZoomInfo

Got your syllabi and textbook lists yet? If you already buy your books online, consider designating the National Domestic Violence Hotline as your AmazonSmile charity. Choose the Hotline and Amazon will automatically donate 0.5% of the cost of anything you buy to an organization that helps provide crisis intervention, emotional support, safety planning, and referrals to hundreds of thousands of people every year.

We know those textbooks add up, so it’s nice to know when you can make your $$$ count for even more. Every penny means more crisis calls and chats get answered, so thanks for considering us!

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Going back to school is an exciting time of new school supplies and new school year resolutions! Get inspired to create your own over on our blog at loveisrespect.org/new-school-year-resolutions-for-you.

  • Take care of yourself.
  • Do something to end dating violence in your community.
  • Find a trusted adult.
  • Negotiate a dating contract with yourself.
  • Have a healthy relationship with the important people in your life.
  • And more

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Keeping Your Pets Safe

August 16th is International Homeless Animals Day, and there are many reasons why beloved animals may become homeless: overpopulation due to lack of spaying and neutering, pet owners who decide they no longer wish to keep their pets, pets that run away from home, pets who are abused by their owners. Many pets are also displaced as a result of domestic violence.

According to Safe Place for Pets, up to 65% of domestic violence victims are unable to escape their abusive partners because they are concerned about what will happen to their pets when they leave. In many cases, victims of domestic violence may try to take their pets with them when they are able to leave the relationship, but find that their local domestic violence shelters do not accept pets. Fortunately, this is changing, and shelters for domestic violence and abuse victims are beginning to create spaces for pets. Thanks to the Animal Welfare Institute’s Safe Havens Mapping Project, it’s becoming easier to locate shelters that accept pets.

Check out the hotline’s Pets & DV page to find shelters in your area, and head over to the blog to read more about safety planning with pets.

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The Myth of the Friend Zone

It’s the plotline of so many movies and tv shows, seemingly dreaded by all who date: the friend zone

When someone says they’re in the friend zone, they usually mean that they want to have a more intimate, romantic, and/or sexual relationship with a person who considers them to be “just friends.” 

But we’re here to tell you something that might blow your mind: the friend zone is a myth!

Ridiculous, right? We’ll give you a few minutes to let that sink in. 

We know it definitely sucks to have feelings for someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you. It’s okay to feel disappointed or hurt by that. But the reason we call the friend zone a myth is because there really is no “zone” that you can be “put into” by someone else. Everyone has the right to decide who they do and do not want to date or be intimate with. 

If someone says they’re in the friend zone, they’re usually implying that they feel entitled to another person’s affection as “payback” for the emotional investment and time spent being their “friend.” They might be thinking: I’ve been such a good friend to you, so you should be my girl/boyfriend! Or maybe: If I’m really nice to them, they’ll eventually WANT to be my girl/boyfriend!

The truth is, no one is obligated to be interested in anyone else, for any reason. Just because you have feelings for someone, you are not OWED their affections, and vice versa. 

If you’ve expressed your interest in dating someone and they’ve made it clear that they don’t wish to date you, the healthy response is to respect their decision. Attempting to manipulate them into changing their mind or their feelings by acting like a friend isn’t healthy. Being a true friend to someone means loving and respecting who they are and what they do and don’t want, even if that means you don’t get everything you want from them. 

Again, it’s understandable if you feel hurt by this situation. While you’re working through your feelings, you might want to take the opportunity to step back from this person for a little while. If you feel comfortable doing so, you might tell the other person something like, “I understand that you don’t feel the same way about me, but I just need a little time to myself right now.” Focus on the stuff you like to do - fun activities, hobbies, or just being around different people. In time, you might discover that you’re happy being friends with that person and can continue to grow a healthy friendship with them, or maybe you’ll decide that it feels better to move on. That’s definitely your choice.

If you have questions about relationships, we are here to listen and help! Call, chat, or text with one of our peer advocates today.

Some related posts to check out: 

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Having the Talk about Pornography

Today we’re going to talk about a subject that’s usually considered taboo, at least in our society: pornography. Good thing nothing is taboo at loveisrespect! Lots of people who get in touch with us have questions about porn, so if you have questions too, you’re not alone.

  • Is looking at porn wrong? Can it be okay?
  • Does it count as cheating if you’re in a relationship?
  • Can I ask my significant other to stop looking at porn?
  • Does looking at porn mean my partner doesn’t love me?

These are all questions we’ve heard before, and they all have complex answers. Head over to the loveisrespect blog to find the answers!

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Just another reminder that taking care of yourself is important—and that even the little things count!

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Why We Don’t Recommend Couples Counseling for Abusive Relationships

Therapy can be very effective for some couples who are working through difficult relationship issues. However, if abuse is present in the relationship, we do not recommend that couples seek counseling together. The primary reason we don’t recommend couples counseling is that abuse is not a “relationship” problem. Couples counseling may imply that both partners contribute to the abusive behavior, when the choice to be abusive lies solely with the abusive partner.

Head over to thehotline.org to read this blog post in its entirety.

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"Sometimes it’s okay if the only thing you did today was breathe.”

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La verdad que estoy muy mal. Hace una semana un "amigo" de hace un año ya me dijo de vernos y conocernos mas, me encanto la idea. Después de que me dijo eso sentía cosquillas en la panza cada vez que hablaba con el, me hacía sonreír plenamente. El tema es que cuando llego el día de vernos, me asuste muchísimo, me dio miedo, estaba nerviosa, solamente quería esconderme y estar sola por que tenía miedo de que no me aceptara. ¿Que fue? No nos vimos, y el después me hablo cortado. ¿Cague todo?
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The Internet Is Not OK With Robin Thicke's New Video, 'Get Her Back' f

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Our volunteer ambassadors really outdid themselves with their fruit cup fundraiser last week. We always appreciate the fruits of our volunteers’ hard work!

Follow loveisrespect on instagram for more puns and an inside scoop on the daily happenings of our crisis line.

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"Accepting help is its own kind of strength."
Kiera Cass (via feellng)

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